Genesis 25:28Meaning & Commentary from the Church Fathers

Consequently, Rebekah had a strong affection for Jacob, while Isaac favored Esau, as the Scriptures note that Esau’s game delighted him. Observe how the parents themselves favored different children. The mother, perceiving Jacob as a gentle-hearted boy who remained close to home, showed him greater affection. In contrast, the father preferred Esau, not only because he was his firstborn but also due to his hunting achievements. Nonetheless, their preferences arose from a natural, parental love.

The firstborn nation of Israel was cherished with divine affection, as the act of living according to the law and striving in it was presented to God like a written work. Among the people of Israel, there were those who loved God and adhered to the law. The prophet Isaiah expressed sorrow over Jerusalem, calling it a wayward city; he noted that truth “dwelt in it at times” (Isaiah 1:21), implying that it faltered and became fragmented, for many took pride in their obedience to the law. Thus, although the firstborn Israel experienced glory with God, it fell short of fully embracing the honor that came with its birthright.

We ought not to blame parents for showing a preference for their younger child over the older. However, we must also guard against the danger that, following their example, anyone could make unfair assessments between the siblings, believing that one deserves affection while the other is overlooked. Such attitudes can foster sibling resentment and provoke horrendous acts driven by the desire for trivial gain. An abundant and equal affection should envelop all the children. If there is a certain quality in the more loving child that resonates with you and draws your affection more strongly, let fairness apply to each one equally. The more love is bestowed upon the cherished child who humbles himself, the more is taken away from the one filled with jealousy from unwarranted favoritism.

Isaac had a special affection for Esau. This depiction of parental affection appears to fall short of the standards set by the patriarchal household. However, it is likely that Isaac cherished not merely the savory meals prepared by Esau but rather the expressions of his dutiful love and obedience, recognizing him as the eldest. In contrast, Rebekah was adhering to God's divine plan for her sons, a revelation she may have received uniquely for herself.