THEOSISGregory the Great
Those who are arrogant often do not reveal this trait in their speech. When they recognize that their words are commendable, they seek affirmation from their audience to ensure they have not misspoken. This isn't due to any uncertainty about their statements; rather, they crave validation based on the opinions of others. Their true concern becomes evident when they receive praise for their virtues while simultaneously facing accusations regarding their faults. Clearly, being engulfed in pride causes them to react defensively against criticism, even when it is justified. If they question their good attributes, it seems contradictory to their persistent defense of their shortcomings. A genuinely humble individual, in contrast, does not justify wrongdoings.
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When confronted about their mistakes, the humble heart is pained by reproof, unlike those who, while professing humility regarding their virtues, often seek the flattery of praise rather than sincere correction.
Elihu exemplifies the behavior of the proud; after delivering high-minded and spiritual insights, he adopts a semblance of humility and addresses Job, suggesting, "Because I have spoken unto God, I will not also hinder thee. If I have sinned, teach me; if I have spoken iniquity, I will add nothing more" (Job 34:31-32). Elihu reminds Job of the noble claims he has previously made while continuing to question whether an error has occurred. Had Elihu been confident in his correctness, he would not have sought clarification. It is characteristic of the boastful to question their own accuracy even when they believe they are right. They choose to overlook such inquiries to avoid the appearance of being wrong while actively trying to present themselves as humble through this questioning, though their pride remains evident.
Indeed, genuine humility can be difficult for those with pride to maintain, as their true nature will eventually reveal itself in their speech. If the audience were to pause and reflect, the arrogance underlying their words would become apparent. The proud cannot maintain the act of humility for long, as to them, true humility feels foreign and remains elusive. They find it burdensome to uphold a false pretense, feeling compelled to discard it internally when they can no longer sustain the façade. Their allegiance to pride becomes a chain, compelling them toward their true selves, making it impossible for them to present a false identity consistently. Following an inquiry about his faults and pledging never to speak ill again, Elihu abruptly shifted from expressions of humility to the arguments defined by pride, accentuating his inward struggle.