John Chrysostom
For many, one of the most painful experiences is when adversaries spread malicious rumors and cast doubt upon their character. Reflect on this: has anyone slandered you, labeling you a fornicator or an adulterer? If these accusations hold truth, then amend your ways; if they are false, let them roll off your back; if you are aware of these statements, make sense of them; if unaware, disregard them. More than that, we should not just dismiss and laugh it off but also take joy in it, as the Lord instructs: “When they reproach you and cast every manner of evil word against you falsely for My sake, rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven” (Matt. 5:11-12).
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He also said, “Rejoice in that day and leap for joy when they separate you from their company, and when they revile you, and cast out your name as evil, for the Son of Man’s sake” (Luke 6:22-23). If your enemy speaks the truth and you receive their words with humility, do not seek revenge or retaliate but instead earnestly repent and condemn your own sins, and you shall receive a reward that equals the first.
I will support this with Scripture, so you may understand that as much harm as friends may inflict upon us with their flattery and affection, so too can our enemies do much good by pointing out our faults, even when their accusations hold weight, if we make the right use of their reproaches. Friends, out of affection, may often deceive us with compliments; however, enemies shine a light on our sins. We are often blind to our shortcomings due to self-love, while our adversaries observe us closely, and their malice drives us towards self-correction. Therefore, their hostility can be a source of great benefit, as through their admonishments we not only recognize our sins but strive to overcome them. Indeed, if an enemy reproaches you for a sin you already acknowledge, and your response is not to retaliate with anger but instead to weep and pray earnestly to God, then you have indeed begun to cast aside that sin. What could be more beneficial? What path could be clearer for shedding our sins?
To ensure that this counsel is reasonable, I will share testimony from the Holy Scriptures. There were two men who entered the temple to pray, a Pharisee and a tax collector. The Pharisee was proud of his righteousness, gave away his belongings, fasted, and was far removed from selfishness, while the tax collector was immersed in greed and wrongdoing. The Pharisee stood in prayer and declared: “God, I thank You that I am not like other men—extortioners, unjust, or even like this tax collector” (Luke 18:11). Meanwhile, the tax collector stood at a distance, not daring to lift his eyes, and did not return insult for insult; he did not say, “How dare you judge me? Am I not better than you? I could reveal your failings, and you would not enter this holy place again.” No, he uttered none of the harsh words we often exchange in such moments. Instead, he beat his breast and cried out, “God, be merciful to me, a sinner” (Luke 18:13), and he left the temple justified.
See how quickly this transformation occurred: he accepted the reproach and cleansed himself; he became aware of his sins and was freed from them, showing that the reproach served to eliminate sin, and his enemy, contrary to his intent, became a benefactor. How much effort would the tax collector have had to exert in fasting, prayer, charity, and acts of penance to achieve purification? Yet, without undertaking these actions, he was cleansed merely by his heartfelt plea; the insults meant to humiliate him instead earned him the crown of righteousness effortlessly and swiftly.
Thus, it becomes clear that even when others speak truthfully about us, voicing what we already know, if we respond without anger but in grief and supplication to God, we open the door to remedy all our sins. The tax collector didn’t counter the Pharisee's insult with one of his own; he mourned his sins, and therefore “this one went down to his house justified rather than the other.”
Consider the significant blessing derived from the offenses of our adversaries when we bear them with grace. If our enemies can offer us good—by speaking both truth and falsehood—then why do we allow ourselves to be troubled? Why do we succumb to irritation? If you, dear person, do not cause yourself harm, then neither your friend nor enemy, nor even the devil, can truly harm you. If those who insult us, rob us, and even plot against our lives can ultimately lead us to the crown of martyrdom and offer us justification like the tax collector, why should we harbor resentment against them? We must not say, “So-and-so has troubled me; so-and-so has made me speak ill.” Instead, we must recognize that we ourselves are responsible for our reactions. If we aspire to uphold virtue, the devil's efforts will not sway us into anger.