Instead, strive to guide him gently and compassionately, not as a harsh adversary or a callous physician who sees only one solution—cutting away the problem. Recognize your own frailties as well. If your own vision is clouded by sin or suffering, how can you see clearly? If you perceive the world as chaotic due to your own afflictions, do not hastily attribute this confusion to others. It is far wiser to reflect and discern before passing judgment on another’s wrongdoing.
Taking a life is not the same as pruning a plant or withering flower; you are created in the likeness of God and converse with another who bears His image. When you judge your brother, remember that you will also face judgment; you assess a servant who belongs to another master. Consider your brother as you would wish to be regarded yourself. Therefore, do not quickly sever ties or cast aside a member until you can be certain that it will not cause further injury to the healthy parts. Offer guidance, encourage, and reprove as necessary (2 Tim. 4:2). You possess the authority to heal; you follow the example of Christ, who is gentle, compassionate, and supportive of the weak among you.
If your brother resists the first time, show him patience; if he falters a second time, maintain hope—there is time for healing. If he stumbles a third time, act as a compassionate gardener, pleading with the Lord to refrain from uprooting the barren fig tree before caring for it and providing nourishment (Luke 13:8)—meaning, offer the opportunity for confession, acknowledge shortcomings, and mend a faulty life. Who knows whether it might yet blossom, bearing fruit and nourishing Jesus on His return from Bethany?
Embrace your brother’s true or perceived shortcomings, for you are anointed with a spirit of peace, called to share that divine fragrance with him. Sin is not an immediate poison leading to swift agony or death, warranting a hasty retreat or destruction of the sinner. Rather, strive to heal your brother; and if you cannot, at least strive to avoid complicity in his failings. A brother's sin might produce an unpleasant odor, but it can be dispelled by your fragrant offering of love. Consider committing to your sacred kinship in a manner similar to what Paul, the zealous one, envisioned for the Israelites—that they might be brought to Christ through your intercession.
Beware, then, of hastily expelling your brother from fellowship over your mere suspicions. In doing so, you might lose someone for whom Christ sacrificed His life. Thus, though you may be well-versed in discussions regarding food and steadfast in faith, be careful not to “destroy with thy food” (Romans 14:15) the one cherished by Christ through shared suffering. The nature of the situation may differ, yet encouragement remains perpetually valuable.