Before you begin to pray, take time to prepare yourself, and do not be like someone testing the Lord (Sir. 18:23). Just as a beautiful field of ripened grain sways gently in the breeze, so is the joyous ambiance of a Church filled with devoted worshippers. In these individuals, the gentle movement of the Holy Spirit stirs their hearts to humility, causing their piety to bow in reverence before God and His Sacraments. This imagery is not mere fiction but is drawn from the teachings of the Gospel, which describes the sower and the seeds. The Gospel illustrates that the essence of teaching is akin to seed, the preacher is like the sower, the receptive listeners are represented as cultivated soil, and those who believe are compared to ground that is both nurtured and sown, which “first brings forth the grass, then the ear, and after that the full grain in the ear” (Mark 4:28).
However, I must acknowledge that this parable, while illuminating the joy I witness in the church, also reminds me that I cannot indulge in this vision without thoughtful reflection. “The earth brings forth first the grass, then the ear, the same yields the wheat in the ear.” It is not only young grass that lacks an ear; there are also souls who are still immature in their faith and produce no spiritual fruits. Furthermore, there exist clusters without grains; such are the souls adorned with the outward appearance of piety but devoid of true spiritual vitality. An ear without grain resembles a full ear in outward appearance; similarly, the visage of godliness can be misleading. The longer a spiritual ear remains empty of grain, the closer it approaches a state of ultimate barrenness, where nothing will be suitable for the heavenly storehouse. Therefore, as a person remains entrenched in mere superficial appearances of piety without being imbued with genuine spiritual renewal, they edge closer to a state of spiritual desolation that yields nothing of value for the Kingdom of Heaven—a most perilous situation indeed!
Moreover, what intensifies this concern is that the ear does not bear the blame for lacking grain; rather, it is the responsibility of each person to cultivate good fruits. Heaven is ever ready to shower us with its grace; it is upon us to call forth this grace through faith, prayer, and a sincere offering of ourselves. “What shall I do? I pray, and I seek the influences of Heaven. Yet fulfilling my prayer seems beyond my control.” Is this not a sentiment shared by some, if not many? In response, I offer the Wise One's guidance regarding what is within our power to ensure our prayers are favored by God. “It is no surprise if one fails in such endeavors without proper preparation, approaching as though one were testing the Lord.” If you wish to emerge victorious in battle, arm yourself appropriately and train diligently to master your weapons. If you seek to swim across a river, remove any cumbersome clothing that would hinder your movement. Likewise, if you desire a fruitful prayer experience, “before you even pray, prepare yourself.”
But how does one prepare for prayer? Should we not recognize God not only as our Creator but also as the One who sustains us daily? Should we believe that God’s actions on our behalf occur not solely through the laws bestowed upon creation but also independently by His almighty will, which aligns with our own to fulfill our desires? We must trust that, despite our inherent unworthiness due to sin, God, in His infinite mercy, will not ignore our prayers, as the steadfast word of the Lord assures us: “If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good things to those who ask Him” (Mt. 7:11, Lk. 11:13). Should we not, following David’s words and example, “set the Lord always before us” (Psalm 15:8), envisioning His invisible yet real presence at our prayer, who sees and hears us, scrutinizing our hearts to grant us according to our desires?
These are foundational understandings every pray-er should possess. They prepare our hearts to pray; without them, prayer cannot flourish nor be deemed genuine. Additionally, there are other important preparatory aspects often overlooked or forgotten, yet essential for truly effective prayer. One crucial preparation is to forgive our enemies and seek reconciliation with all people. In the prayer given to us by the Lord—perfect in its simplicity—we ask, “Forgive us our debts, as we also forgive our debtors.” That is, we seek forgiveness for our sins as we extend forgiveness to those who have wronged us. If we recite this prayer carelessly, without examining our hearts, it is easy for enmity or resentment toward others to linger within us, causing the words we speak to contradict the true state of our hearts: “as we do not forgive, so may we not be forgiven.”
To safeguard against this misstep, it is essential to earnestly scrutinize the peace within our hearts. A single moment of introspection may not suffice. We can be assured of our reconciliation with others only after we have earnestly sought to mend any rifts. This preparation is so vital that even if we begin to pray without it, Jesus commands us to halt and pursue reconciliation first: “If you bring your gift to the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift before the altar and first go be reconciled to your brother” (Matthew 5:23-24).
Notice how strict the command is regarding reconciliation. “If you recall that your brother has something against you,” it may be that you find no fault in yourself. Nonetheless, the Lord does not excuse even this scenario from the duty of reconciling before prayer: “First go and be reconciled.” Some may question this rigidity—why should my prayer be impeded by my brother's feelings? To such inquiries, I have a simple response: I do not know. The Lord’s command remains unchanged; its authority is unwavering. Should a creditor forgive a significant debt, contingent upon your willingness to forgive a minor debt to another, it would be irrational not to accept such a generous offer, simply because you lack an understanding of his motives. Similarly, when God promises forgiveness for our grievous sins, which merit eternal punishment, on the condition of our forgiveness of a neighbor’s slight, it would be folly to forfeit His abundant grace because we cannot comprehend the necessity of our small act of reconciliation.
You may ask, why must I face this stringent requirement for reconciliation? The answer is that such requirements reflect God’s incomprehensible intentions for our prosperity and that of our neighbors. He desires not only your blessings but also those for your brother who holds something against you, and who experiences inner turmoil as a result. By earnestly seeking reconciliation with this distressed brother, you support God’s Providence in enhancing his wellbeing. Do you perceive the profound and beautiful purpose embedded in the demand for reconciliation? Why, you may inquire, is prayer hindered by my indifference toward my brother? Because disregard for your brother and his burden evidences a lack of care for his spiritual peace and purity. Thus, if you neglect this, it indicates a failure in love; “whoever does not love his brother abides in death” (1 John 3:14). A heart devoid of love is spiritually lifeless and incapable of true prayer.
Therefore, humble yourself in love toward your brother; ignite within yourself a spark of pure love that can elevate your prayers before God. Another vital preparation for effective prayer is fostering a sincere yearning and resolute commitment to renounce any sin that ensnares you and to live in accordance with God’s will. “Turn to the Lord and forsake sins; pray before Him and cast away hindrances; rise above all wrongdoing” (Sir. 17:21-23). The Apostle emphasizes that the “foundation” of God’s work within us is marked by this faithful distinction: that anyone who names the name of the Lord must “depart from iniquity” (2 Tim. 2:19). In essence, if you invoke the Lord’s name yet do not turn from unrighteousness, then your foundation lacks stability, and your prayers lack both power and purity. “He who turns away his ear from hearing the law, even his prayer is an abomination” (Proverbs 28:9).
Thus, it is no surprise that the Lord may not incline His ear to such a prayer. “Why do you call Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do the things which I say?” (Luke 6:46). The Prophet Isaiah, hearing the complaints of the people regarding their unanswered prayers, admonished them regarding the cause of their plight: “Is the Lord’s hand shortened that it cannot save? Is His ear heavy that it cannot hear? But your iniquities have separated you from God; your sins have hidden His face from you” (Isaiah 59:1-2).
A sinner may wonder, “What hope is there for me if God turns away even my prayers for forgiveness?” To him, I would respond: your hope lies in earnest prayer, joined with steadfast repentance—a commitment to forsake sin. “But how can I turn from sin without God’s grace, which I seek in prayer?” It is true that divine grace is essential for liberation from sin, yet it is not God’s way to grant that grace against your will, for He respects the freedom He imparted to you—the very freedom that has led you into sin through your own bad choices. Your role is active; take that first step and then pray, and the grace of God will assist you in overcoming sin. Resolve to renounce your sinful ways, then pray, and grace will deliver you from their rule. Determine to abandon conscious sin, seeking out a pure heart and mind, and when you pray, grace will aid you in obtaining a life marked by holiness.
Whoever advances to pray without such preparations, seeking God’s blessings while neglecting to pledge to turn from their sins, acts, as the Wise One says, “like a man who tempts the Lord.” For if the true intent of the heart of an insincere pray-er were translated into words, it would sound like: “Lord, forgive me my offenses, but I do not intend to cease my wrongdoings. Grant me my desires, but I do not promise to obey You.” Would anyone speaking so to a ruler expect anything but censure? How much more serious is the one who presents his request before God with both his lips and a heart unwilling to submit, daring to “tempt the Lord” to the limit of His patience. His forbearance may last long, yet it is far from a path towards the gracious acceptance of his prayers.
Beloved Christian, “Do not be as one who tempts the Lord.” Approach the Almighty with sincerity and purity. “First prepare yourself before your prayers.” Fill your lamp with oil for a bright and steady flame. Fill your heart with peace, that your prayers may shine with clarity and conviction. Cast away the remnants of unclean living from your spiritual offering. Be diligent and sincere in these essential preparations for prayer, and the Holy Spirit—who embodies the spirit of prayer—will intercede for you with unuttered sighs, guiding you further in this sacred endeavor, that you may bear fruit for God and be gathered into eternal life. Amen.