John Chrysostom
Here is another lofty example and an ineffable gain. God is especially glorified when we are within the same enclosure. Therefore, if you are grieved for your own sake and stir up strife with your brother, think that by putting anger aside you will glorify your Master. Be reconciled with your brother, if not for his sake, then for the glory of God. Or rather, do it above all for that glory. Christ also continually repeated this. Speaking with the Father, He said, "That all may know that You have sent Me, if they are one" (Jn 17:21-23). Therefore let us follow the exhortation and be united with one another. He urges not only the weak to this, but all in general. Even if someone wishes to separate from you, do not separate from him.
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Do not utter that cold saying: "If he loves me, I will love him. If my right eye does not love me, I will pluck it out." These are satanic words, worthy of publicans and pagan faintheartedness. But you, as one called to a higher life and enrolled in heaven, are subject to higher laws. Do not say this when he does not wish to love you. Then especially show greater love, so that by this you may draw him in. He too is a member. When a member, by some necessity, is separated from the rest of the body, we use every means to attach it again. In that very case we show greater care. The reward is greater when you draw to love one who is not disposed to it. If Christ commands us to invite to a meal those who cannot repay us, so that we may receive a greater recompense for this (Lk 14:12), much more must this be done with love. If the one you love also loves you, he has already given you repayment. But if the one you love does not love you, he has made God his debtor on his behalf. Moreover, when he loves you, you do not need to apply much care to him. But when he does not love you, then he especially needs your help. Therefore do not turn the reason for care into a reason for neglect. Do not say, "Since he is sick," for the cooling of love is a sickness, "I will not care for him." Rather, warm the one who has grown cold. But you will say, "What should I do if he does not grow warm?" Continue doing your part. "What if he turns away from me even more?" By this he prepares an even greater recompense for you and reveals you still more as an imitator of Christ. If mutual love is the mark of Christ's disciples, for Christ says, "By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another" (Jn 13:35), then consider how great it is to love one who hates you. Your Master loved and called to Himself those who hated Him. The weaker they were, the more He cared for them, and He proclaimed aloud: "Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick" (Mt 9:12). He even deemed publicans and sinners worthy of His table. In general, the more greatly the Jewish people dishonored Him, the more, or rather far more, He showed them care and goodwill. You also imitate Him. This is no small work. Without it, as Paul says, even a great martyr cannot please God. Do not say, "Since he hates me, I do not love him." On the contrary, for this very reason especially you ought to love him. In any case, it is impossible quickly to hate one who loves. Everyone, even if he is a beast, will love those who love him. Christ says that even pagans and publicans do this (Mt 5:46-47). If everyone loves those who love them, who will not love those who love while being hated? Prove this in yourself. Do not cease saying, "However much you hate me, I will not cease loving you." By this you will overcome every stubbornness and soften every soul. This sickness arises either from inflammation or from coldness. But the power of love, by its warmth, usually heals both. Have you never seen those devoted to shameful love endure blows, spitting, insults, and thousands of annoyances from dissolute women? What then? Can all these insults cool their love? Not at all. They inflame it even more. Though the women who insult them are dishonorable both by their corrupt life and by their low and obscure origin, while those insulted can often point to famous ancestors and speak of other renown, even this does not weaken their love or turn them away from the woman they love. How are we not ashamed if, in love that is pleasing to God, we cannot show the strength that devilish and demonic love has? Do you not understand that love pleasing to God is the strongest weapon against the devil? Do you not see that the evil demon stands watch, draws to himself the one you hate, and wishes to make him his member? Yet you run past and lose the reward of the contest. Your brother lying between you and your enemy is the reward. If you conquer, you receive a crown. If you are careless, you depart uncrowned. Cease, then, uttering these satanic words: "If my brother hates me, I do not even want to see him." Nothing is more shameful than such speech, though many consider it a sign of a noble soul. Nothing is less noble, more senseless, or more hardhearted than this. This is why I especially grieve: many consider evil deeds to be virtue. Neglecting and despising others seems to them something fine and honorable. This is the most dangerous snare of the devil, when vice is clothed with a good reputation. For that reason it becomes hard to eradicate. I myself have heard many take pride in not approaching a man who turned away from them, though your Master takes glory even in this. How many times did men spit on Him? How many times did they turn away from Him? Yet He does not cease coming to them. Therefore do not say, "I cannot approach people who hate me." Say instead, "I cannot spit on those who spit on me." This will be the speech of a disciple of Christ. The former is devilish speech. This made many renowned and glorious. The former made them contemptible and ridiculous. Therefore we admire Moses. When God Himself said, "Let Me alone, and in My wrath I will consume them" (Ex 32:10, 32), Moses could not despise those who had often turned away from him. He said, "If You will forgive their sin, forgive it; but if not, blot me out." Thus Moses was a friend and imitator of God. Let us not boast of what we ought to be ashamed of. Let us not utter words used in the marketplace by wicked people: "I spit on everyone." If anyone else says this, let us rebuke him and make him be silent, as a man boasting of what he ought to be ashamed of. Tell me, what are you saying? You despise a believing man, while Christ did not despise him when he was still unbelieving. What do I mean, "did not despise"? Christ loved him so greatly that He died for him, though he was His enemy and covered with deformity. Christ loved him greatly even in that condition. But you despise him now, when he has become beautiful and worthy of wonder, a member of Christ and the body of the Master. How do you not consider what you are saying? How do you not perceive what you are resolving to do? Christ is his Head, table, garment, life, light, and bridegroom. Christ is everything for him. Yet you dare say, "I spit on him," and not on him alone, but on all like him. Stop, man. Put aside your madness. Recognize your brother. Understand that such words befit a mad or deranged man. Say the exact opposite: "Even if he spits on me a thousand times, I will not depart from him." In this way you will gain your brother, live for the glory of God, and become a partaker of the blessings to come. May all of us attain them by grace and love for mankind, and so forth.