"Simon, son of Jonah," the Lord said to Peter, "do you love Me?" The Apostle answered, "Yes, Lord. You know that I love You." A second time he was asked in the same way, and a second time he gave the same answer. When he was asked a third time, he was grieved, seeing that he seemed not to be believed. But how could He not believe him, Who knew his heart? Therefore Peter then answered, "Lord, You know all things. You know that I love You." And Jesus said to him all three times, "Feed My sheep."
Besides this, the Savior's threefold address to Peter and Peter's threefold confession before his Lord had another special and beneficial purpose for the Apostle. He to whom the keys of the Kingdom had been given, with the authority to bind and loose, had himself been bound three times by fear and faintheartedness (Mt 26:69-75). The Lord likewise looses him three times by His own address and by Peter's confession of firm love.
Yet the feeding of Christ's rational flock belongs to all the Apostles and to their successors. "Take heed to yourselves and to all the flock," the Apostle Paul cries to the presbyters of the Church, "in which the Holy Spirit has made you bishops, to shepherd the Church of the Lord and God, which He purchased with His own Blood" (Acts 20:28). And the Apostle Peter says to the elders, "Shepherd the flock of God which is among you, exercising oversight not by compulsion, but willingly, according to God. Do not do it for dishonest gain, but eagerly. Do not lord it over those entrusted to you, but be examples to the flock. And when the Chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the unfading crown of glory" (1 Pet 5:2-4).
To this end came that worshiper who had denied Him. He had been carried away by self-confidence, humbled by denial, cleansed by tears, praised for confession, and crowned by martyrdom. To this end he came, that in perfect love he might die for the name of Him with Whom, in perverse haste, he had promised to accept death.
Strengthened by His Resurrection, let him now do what he rashly promised when he was weak. For Christ first had to die for Peter's salvation, and then Peter for the preaching of Christ. What human thoughtlessness had dared was untimely, while the truth had established this order. Peter thought to lay down his life for Christ (cf. Jn 13:37), for his Redeemer. Yet Christ had come to lay down His life for all His own, among whom Peter was numbered. Behold, this has already been accomplished.
Now true firmness of heart, by His gift, must be ready to accept death for the name of the Lord. False firmness must no longer show presumption, by which we deceive ourselves. Now we have reason not to fear our departure from this life. In the Lord's Resurrection, the pattern of the future life has been given to us.
Now, Peter, you have reason not to fear death. He lives Whom you mourned as dead, and Whom in fleshly love you tried to keep from dying for us (cf. Mt 16:21-22). You dared to go before the Leader, and you feared His pursuer. Now, when the price has been paid for you, you have reason to follow the Redeemer, even to the death of the cross. You have heard the words of Him Whose truthfulness you have already learned. He Who foretold your denial has foretold that you will suffer.
But first the Lord asks what He already knew, and not once, but a second and a third time, whether Peter loves Him. As many times as He hears from Peter that he loves Him, so many times He entrusts His sheep to Peter to feed. A threefold confession is joined to the threefold denial. Thus the tongue would show obedience to love no less than to fear. Thus, as it were, expected death would sound no less in his mouth than present life.
Let feeding the Lord's flock become a sign of love, if denial of the Shepherd was a sign of fear. Those who feed Christ's sheep while wishing in their soul that they should belong to them and not to Christ reveal that they love themselves. They do this from desire either for glory, or power, or gain. They do not love Christ through devotion to obedience, service, and reverence for God.
This voice of Christ, repeated so many times, warns against those of whom the Apostle lamented, saying that they seek their own and not the things of Jesus Christ (Phil 2:21). For what else do the words, "Do you love Me? Feed My sheep," mean, except what He might have said in this way? "If you love Me, do not think of feeding yourself. Feed My sheep, not as your own. Seek in them My glory, not your own. Seek My dominion, not your own. Seek My gain, not your own. Otherwise you may be found among those who belong to grievous times (cf. 2 Tim 3:1), among those who love themselves, and among the other things joined to that root of evil."
For when the Apostle had said, "men will be lovers of themselves," he then added, "lovers of money, boastful, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, intent on wickedness, impious, without affection, false, incontinent, irreconcilable, not loving the good, traitors, reckless, blinded, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the form of piety but denying its power" (cf. 2 Tim 3:2-5). All these vices flow, as from a spring, from the vice he placed first, self-love.
Rightly was it said to Peter, "Do you love Me?" And he answered, "I love You." Then it was said to him, "Feed My sheep." So it was a second time, and a third. By this it was also shown that amor and dilectio mean the same thing. For in the last instance the Lord does not ask, Diligis me? but Amas me?
In the Latin translation of the Gospel, in Jn 21:15-17, the verbs amo and diligo are used as equivalent. Amo expresses a more intimate and affective love. Diligo expresses love that bears attachment, respect, and honor. In the first two instances the Lord Jesus Christ asked Peter, Diligis me? and heard in answer, amo te. In the third instance the Lord asked, Amas me? and Peter answered, amo te.
Therefore let us love not ourselves, but Him. In feeding His sheep, let us seek what is His, not what is ours. In some inexplicable way, everyone who loves himself and not God does not love even himself. And everyone who loves God and not himself also loves himself. For one who cannot have life from himself will certainly die by loving himself. Therefore he does not love himself who loves himself and thereby loses life.
But when love is shown for Him from Whom life comes, then by not loving himself a man loves himself more. He does not love himself for this reason, that he loves Him from Whom he has life. Let those who feed Christ's sheep not be lovers of themselves. Let them feed them not as their own, but as His.
Let them not seek to draw their own gain from them, like lovers of money. Let them not rule over them, like the arrogant. Let them not seek glory from the honors they receive from them, like the proud. Let them not go so far as to beget heresies, like blasphemers. Let them not depart from the holy fathers, like those disobedient to parents. Let them not repay good with evil, like the unthankful, to those who wish to correct them because they do not want them to perish.
Let them not destroy either their own souls or the souls of others, like those intent on wickedness. Let them not tear apart the motherly womb of the Church, like the impious. Let them not lack compassion for the weak, like those without affection. Let them not try to defile the glory of the saints, like the false. Let them not give free rein to their lusts, like the incontinent. Let them not persist in quarrels, like the irreconcilable. Let them not refuse to come to another's aid, like those who do not love the good.
Let them not, like traitors, report to the enemies of the pious what they have learned as a secret. Let them not harm human modesty by striving after shamelessness, like the reckless. Let them not fail to understand what they say and what they affirm (cf. 1 Tim 1:7), like the blinded. Let them not prefer fleshly pleasures to spiritual joys, as those do who are lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.
Whether all these and similar vices are found in one man, or some prevail in one and others in another, they all grow from this root, that men become lovers of themselves. This vice must especially be avoided by those who feed Christ's sheep. They must not seek their own, but the things of Jesus Christ. They must not use their ministry to those for whom Christ's Blood was poured out in order to satisfy their own desires.
Love for Christ must burn with such spiritual fire in the one who feeds His sheep that it overcomes even the natural fear of death. Because of that fear, we do not want to die, even when we want to live with Christ. For the Apostle also says that he has a desire to depart and live with Christ (cf. Phil 1:23). Yet he groans under the burden, not wishing to be unclothed but clothed, that what is mortal may be swallowed up by life (cf. 2 Cor 5:4).