John Chrysostom
"And to Apphia the beloved." It seems to me that she was Philemon's wife. Look at Paul's humility. He joins Timothy to himself in his request, and asks not only the husband, but also the wife and another, probably a friend.
"And Archippus," he says, "our fellow soldier." He does not wish to obtain this by command, nor does he show indignation if Philemon does not immediately obey his order.
Rather, he acts as though he were unknown, disposing them also to do the same and to strengthen his request. For not only a request made by many, but also one addressed to many, helps obtain what is asked.
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"And Archippus our fellow soldier." If you are a fellow soldier, then you must take part here as well. This is the same Archippus of whom he says in the Epistle to the Colossians: "Say to Archippus, See that you fulfill the ministry which you have received in the Lord" (Col 4:17).
It seems to me that he belonged to the clergy. Therefore the Apostle addresses his request to him also and calls him a fellow soldier, so that he may assist in every way.
"And to the church in your house." Here he did not overlook the slaves. He knew that the words of slaves can often persuade the master, especially when the request concerns a slave. Besides, perhaps they had especially provoked the master's anger.
Therefore, not wishing them to fall into envy, he honored them also with the greeting together with their masters. Yet he gave the master no cause for offense.
If he had named the slaves individually, perhaps Philemon would have been offended. If he had not mentioned them at all, they would have been displeased. See, then, how wisely he mentioned them, honored them by remembering them, and did not irritate him.
The name "Church" does not allow masters to be offended when they are placed together with slaves. Indeed, the Church knows no distinction between master and slave. She distinguishes both by virtues and vices.
Therefore, if your house is a Church, do not be offended that a slave is placed with you. "In Christ Jesus there is neither slave nor free" (Gal 3:28).