But if they repented and corrected themselves, he would receive them with love. Since their correction or lack of correction lay in their own power, it also depended on them how the Apostle would have to appear when he came: meek or strict.
Therefore he says: "What do you want? Shall I come to you with a rod?" Remain in your pride, and if you do, then that will happen. But if you do not want this, cast away pride, and I will appear to you as a father full of love.
When he says, "with a rod?" he seems to ascend the judge's seat and from there pronounce his word with full authority. The rod signifies the severity of authority. It can also signify punitive power, by which Ananias and Sapphira were punished (Acts 5:9), and Elymas also (Acts 13:11) (Chrysostom, Theodoret).
The Apostle also used it among the Corinthians when he delivered the incestuous man to Satan. It is no wonder that here too, foretelling the strictness of judgment, he had in mind the use of such power, if the good of the Church should require it.
"Shall I come with a rod, or with love?" "Was coming with a rod not also a sign of love? It was a sign of love. Yet one who loves strongly does not easily incline to punishment, and for this reason he speaks so.
When speaking of punishment, he did not express himself in the same way as when speaking of meekness. Here he says, 'with a spirit of meekness,' but there, 'with a rod.' Yet this too was the work of the Spirit.
For there is a Spirit of meekness and a Spirit of strength, that is, of severity. But he does not wish to call Him by this name, and he ascribes to Him the gentler works.
See also Paul's wisdom. Although he has authority, he offers them a choice between both and says, 'What do you want?' This depends on you. Likewise, it depends on us whether we fall into Gehenna or receive the Kingdom, because this is pleasing to God.
'Behold,' He says, 'fire and water. Stretch out your hand to whichever you will' (Sir 15:16). And again: 'If you are willing and obedient, you shall eat the good things of the land. But if you are unwilling and disobedient, the sword shall devour you' (Isa 1:19-20)" (Chrysostom).