Therefore, for divine instruction and soul-profiting words, he commands Christians to show quickness, readiness, and obedience. But in dangerous and harmful matters, he commands them to be slow.
For someone to speak and become angry, or to speak in fury, will not have a good end. For this reason one God-wise Father said that the man who spoke much repented of it, but the one who kept silent did not regret it.
Blessed David also said, “Be angry, and do not sin” (Ps 4:5). That is, if it happens that you become angry, brothers, do not take vengeance.
The brother of the Lord agrees with these words of David concerning anger. A man must slow these movements and must not take vengeance at all.
The wise Mitrophan interprets this saying as follows: “Let every man be swift to hear, but slow to speak.
Let him hasten his hearing toward the one speaking and calling, while setting a guard over his mouth and a door of enclosure. Let him say nothing improper or unprofitable.
Rather, with much examination and discernment, let him always say what is fitting, for the edification and benefit of those who hear.”
As the saying in Proverbs declares, “He who answers a word before hearing, it is folly and reproach to him” (Prov 18:13).
Again, “Uncovered lips create disorder” (Prov 26:28). And again, “By the sin of the lips the sinner falls into snares” (Prov 12:13).
The divine Paul says, “Let no corrupt word proceed from your mouth, but only what is for the edification of faith” (Eph 4:29).
Observe, beloved, that the divine James did not say, “Let every man be absolutely silent,” but “slow to speak.” That is, let him speak, but let him not hurry to do so.
Let him speak with discernment, saying the words that are fitting and when they are fitting.
Likewise, he did not say, “Let every man be absolutely without anger.” Let him be angry, though it is better not to hurry even in this, at sin and at the devil.
This teaching of the Apostle agrees with the teaching of the Lord, Who forbade irrational anger and did not bless it, saying, “Whoever is angry with his brother without cause” (Mt 5:22).
We will speak further about this in the footnote to “for the anger of man does not work the righteousness of God.”
For this reason Abba Nistheros also said to Abba Joseph when he questioned him: “If you happen to converse with someone, listen more than you speak.”
One wise man said that nature gave us two ears and one tongue for this reason: that from this man might learn to listen more and speak less.
It is not without reason that Proverbs says, “By much speaking you will not escape sin” (Prov 10:19).
According to Ecclesiastes, the one who speaks much shows ignorance: “The fool multiplies words” (Eccl 10:14).
One of the outsiders, Sextus Empiricus, also said: “An unconsidered word and thoughtless anger do no good.”
Saint John of Carpathos also cites this saying of the brother of God, saying: “Even one unkind word barred Moses from entering the promised land.
Let us therefore not consider sickness of the tongue a small disease. For those who speak evil and vain words shut the Kingdom of Heaven against themselves.
A certain wise man rightly said that it is better to fall from a height to the ground than by the tongue. Therefore we ought to obey Saint James, who writes: ‘Let every man be swift to hear and slow to speak.’”
Basil the Great also said: “Since our nature has need of hearing the word, accordingly we have two ears and one tongue” (On Virginity).