If we had kept in mind, dear brothers, the teachings of the wise elders and consistently learned from them, we would not have become so careless about our own well-being. If we had not, as they pointed out, overlooked small matters and what appears trivial, we would not have found ourselves entangled in significant and serious transgressions. I frequently remind you that from these seemingly minor sins—when we dismiss actions with phrases like, "What does it matter?"—a detrimental habit starts to take root within our souls, causing us to neglect far greater issues. Do we comprehend the severity of the sin in condemning our neighbor? What could weigh more heavily than this? What does God despise so profoundly as this? As the elders conveyed, there is nothing worse than condemnation. Yet, even such immense wrongs can arise from the very negligence regarding what seems insignificant. For when a person permits minor oversights concerning others, thinking, "What harm is there in listening to what this brother says? What does it matter if I utter such a word? What difference does it make if I witness the actions of this brother or that traveler?"—from this very attitude, one begins to disregard their own transgressions while fixating on those of their neighbor. Consequently, we may end up condemning, maligning, and belittling others, ultimately falling prey to the very sins we reject. Because a person neglects their own failures and “does not mourn over their dead self,” as the fathers stated, they cannot thrive in righteousness but instead become preoccupied with the shortcomings of others. Nothing provokes God’s wrath more, exposes a person’s flaws, or leads to alienation from Him than backbiting, condemnation, or demeaning a neighbor.
There's a distinction between speaking ill of someone and engaging in condemnation; to criticize means to claim that someone has lied, lost their temper, or committed fornication. This type of slander unjustly depicts one's brother, addressing their failings with bias. To condemn, however, involves declaring, “Such a one is a liar, a wrathful person, or a fornicator.” In this regard, a full evaluation of a person's character and entire life is rendered, pronouncing judgment that constitutes a grave sin. For it is one thing to say, “He is angry” and quite another to assert, “He is perpetually wrathful,” issuing a far-reaching verdict upon one’s entire existence. The sin of condemnation is so much weightier than any other that Christ Himself proclaimed: “O hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye” (Luke 6:42), equating the sin of our neighbor to a speck of dust and our own condemnation to a large log. Such is the heavy nature of condemnation; it overshadows all sins.
Consider the Pharisee who prayed and expressed gratitude to God for his good qualities. He spoke the truth and was not condemned for that aspect; indeed, we ought to thank God when we perform good deeds, recognizing His assistance in those acts. He faced no condemnation for enumerating his virtues or for stating, “I am not like other men,” but rather he was condemned when he turned toward the publican and added, “or even this publican” (Luke 18:11). In doing so, he condemned not merely the actions but the very essence of another person’s soul and life. Consequently, the tax collector emerged from this encounter “justified...rather than” (Luke 18:14). There is indeed nothing more grievous than condemning, belittling, or humiliating our neighbor.
Why do we not take the time to condemn our own sins that we know intimately, ensuring we are ready to answer for them before God? Why do we revel in passing judgment? What do we desire from His creation? Should we not tremble at the account of the elder who, upon learning of a brother's fall into fornication, lamented, "Oh, how terrible is his sin!"? Are you unaware of the grave incident recorded about him in the Father's writings? A holy angel brought the sinner’s soul before him and asked, “Look, the one you condemned is deceased; where do you wish for him to be placed, in the kingdom or in torment?” Is there a more terrifying ordeal than this? What else could the angel's words to the elder mean except, “As the judge of the righteous and the wicked, what will you decide for this humble soul? Will you extend mercy, or will you consign it to torment?” The elder, deeply affected, spent the remainder of his days in sorrow, sleeplessness, and fervent prayers seeking God’s forgiveness for that sin. Even after he fell on his face before the angel and received absolution, the angel’s declaration, “Behold, God has shown you how grievous a sin condemnation is, so that you may no longer fall into it,” signified forgiveness, yet the elder could not find peace or solace until his death.
Thus, what do we seek from our neighbor? What do we gain from bearing the burdens of others? We have our own concerns, dear brothers! Each person ought to focus on themselves and their falterings. The authority to justify and condemn lies solely with God, for He alone understands the heart, strength, understanding, abilities, and circumstances of each individual, judging accordingly as He sees fit. God evaluates differently the matters of a bishop versus a secular leader, an abbot versus a disciple, the old versus the young, and the sick versus the healthy. Who can fathom all His judgments? Only the Creator, who fashioned all things and oversees them.
I recall an incident from the past. A ship carrying slaves arrived in a certain city, where a devout virgin lived, attentively guarding her soul. Upon hearing of the ship’s arrival, she rejoiced, wishing to purchase a little girl to raise in a manner free from the vices of the world. She summoned the ship owner and discovered he had two girls fitting her wish, joyfully paying for one and taking her as her own. As soon as the ship owner departed from her presence, a depraved woman approached him and, seeing the other girl, sought to obtain her. Having made an agreement, she paid the price, taking the girl and leaving. Do you see God’s hidden hand? Do you grasp His judgment? Who can explain it?
The virgin nurtured her chosen girl in reverence for God, instilling within her all that is virtuous, in a life aligned with God’s commandments. Conversely, the depraved woman led her unfortunate charge into the very depths of evil. What can we conclude about such a dire destiny? Both girls were small and sold off, unaware of their fate: one destined for divine embrace and the other for devilish ensnarement. Can we presume that God will ensure the same outcome for both? Is it plausible? If they both yield to sin, could we contend that they will face identical judgment, despite being affected differently? The one was instructed in the divine kingdom, immersed in the words of God, while the other regrettably was surrounded solely by the profane and diabolical—how can one expect both to face the same evaluation? Thus, no human can comprehend God’s judgments; only He understands fully and can discern the transgressions of each individual.
Indeed, it sometimes occurs that a brother may stumble out of innocence but possesses a single good deed that holds more favor in God’s eyes than all his transgressions. Yet, we judge and condemn him, burdening our own souls. Should he stumble, who knows the extent and effort he invested before that fall? To God, his sin may seem as a work of righteousness because He sees his struggles and suffering endured prior to that misstep, showing him mercy. Yet you focus only on the sin itself, condemning him and endangering your own soul. How many tears has he shed before God in repentance? You witness his sin, but overlook his sorrow.
At times, we not only condemn but also humiliate our neighbors. As I pointed out, to condemn differs from demeaning. Humiliation occurs when one not only condemns but abhors their neighbor, turning away as from utter vileness—this is far worse than mere condemnation and proves far more damaging. Those who desire salvation overlook the faults of others, instead concentrating on their own and ultimately succeeding. Such was the one who, observing his brother's sin, sighed and lamented: “Woe to me! As my brother has sinned today, so shall I surely sin tomorrow.” This reflects a humble spirit, finding a way to escape the condemnation of another. By saying, “so will I tomorrow,” he fostered within himself the fear and caution of his potential failure, thus avoiding his brother’s condemnation. Yet, he did not stop there; he further humbled himself, declaring, “At least he will repent for his sin, whereas I may not genuinely repent, I may fail to attain true contrition.” Witness the illumination of his divine heart! Not only did he evade condemning his neighbor, but he also humbled himself.
In contrast, we—who often lack humility—unmindfully condemn, detest, and humiliate others when we perceive or suspect wrongdoing. Worse still, rather than reflecting on our own failings, when encountering a brother, we casually recount, “This and that has occurred,” inflicting harm and igniting sin in his heart. We disregard the warning of Him who said: “Woe to him that gives his neighbor a drink of poisonous corruption” (Abb. 2:15), thus becoming unwitting collaborators with demons, causing destruction both to ourselves and others. The soul, when harmed, becomes a vessel for demonic influence, whereas one who nurtures the soul assists holy angels. Our descent into such acts stems from a deficiency of love. If we truly had love, we would view our neighbors' shortcomings through compassion and sympathy, as it is written, “Love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Pet. 4:8). “Love... does not seek its own, it bears all things” (1 Cor. 13:5-7). If we embodied such love, it would overshadow every offense, mirroring how the saints treat humanity.
For do not the saints see transgressions? Who detests sin more than saints? Yet, they extend no hatred toward the sinner; rather, they show mercy, mourn for them, and encourage, comfort, and restore them as healing for a wounded member. Just as fishermen, when casting nets into the sea and encountering a struggling large fish, do not abruptly pull, lest the line break and the fish is lost. Instead, they allow it some freedom until it tires, then gradually reel it in. So too, the saints draw near to their brothers with patience and love, never abandoning them nor pressing too hard.
As a mother with an imperfectly formed child does not abhor or forsake him, but instead cherishes and cares for him to ensure his well-being, the saints cover, embrace, and assist, guiding the sinner towards timely repentance without harming others, aiding one another in growth within the love of Christ. Consider what St. Ammon did when brethren came to him, saying, “Father, such and such a brother has a woman in his cell.” Oh, the mercy and love this holy soul displayed! Discovering that the brother had hidden the woman beneath a tub, he sat on the very tub and requested the brethren search the cell fully. Upon finding nothing, he reassured them, “God forgive you.” In doing so, he shamed them for their hasty judgment and did them a great service, teaching them not to lightly accept accusations against a neighbor. He then corrected his brother, opting not only to shield him under God’s grace but to provide wise counsel at the appropriate moment. After sending the others away, he gently took the brother aside, saying, “Consider your soul, dear brother.” Instantly, this rebuke ignited shame within him, and the elder's compassion began to work wonders upon his soul.