THEOSISAmbrose of Milan
My friends and adversaries have turned against me. Those who sought my life resorted to violence, while those who wished me harm spoke empty words and plotted against me continuously. Yet, I have remained like a deaf individual, unable to hear, and like one who cannot speak, refusing to open my mouth; I have become as one who does not hear and who has no rebuke on my lips (Psalm 37:12-15). I desire to understand the interpretations of these verses. It appears to me that in the initial line, the Lord reveals how, amidst trials, an individual's foes can often be those closest to them (Matt. 10:36). King David expresses this truth with honesty and heartache, experiencing genuine pain from those who should offer support but instead betray him.
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His sorrow echoes that of Job, who reproached his so-called comforters for their inability to alleviate his suffering, stating they were anything but helpful. We must also take heed of this lesson! True consolation ought to be gentle, soothing wounds of the soul instead of causing further distress. Just as healing the body requires careful treatment to calm inflamed conditions before more invasive procedures, so too should our comforting words be measured and serene, especially during a time of grief. Job's friends remained silent for seven days, offering no words until Job’s anguish demanded a response. We must choose our words carefully so as not to inflict pain when we intend to provide comfort. Silent presence can also be a balm; rash speech can exacerbate wounds. Is it surprising that a wounded soul may react painfully to further injury? Speaking excessively can lead to sin (Proverbs 10:19; 29:20). Just as a physician waits for the opportune moment to administer care, ensuring that healing words bring relief rather than exacerbate suffering, we too should be mindful about when and how we offer our sympathies. The heart of a grieving woman, mourning a lost husband or child, may not even register your presence until her pain begins to ease. Often, we witness disputes arising from ill-timed consolation. We aim to share in someone’s sorrow, not to engage in strife. It's crucial to select our words wisely to avoid offending God while attempting to console another. Do not say, “Listen to this,” followed by a slew of empty remarks, lest you provoke the response of, “You miserable comforters” (Job 16:2). Avoid adding your disputes to another's grief. Come at the appropriate time; if your words are harsh, it would be better to stay away. Let Job’s experience serve as a lesson: Along with my afflictions, I have been surrounded and watched. My siblings have pulled away from me, and strangers are closer than those I thought were friends. My companions have shown no mercy (Job 19:12-13). The sentiments of this holy prophet parallel King David’s lament, as he too mourns the betrayal of friends and the abandonment by those he holds dear.