John Chrysostom
After seeking the Lord for His attention and favor in prayer, consider the nature of the first request made by the prophet. He does not ask for wealth, human accolades, triumph over adversaries, or even offspring; instead, he lays aside all these desires to seek what truly should be presented to God. But you may wonder whether it is not necessary to request physical provisions. Yes, it is essential—though in moderation—as Jacob expressed: "If the Lord God will give me bread to eat and clothes to wear" (Gen. 28:20), and as Jesus taught us to pray: "Give us this day our daily bread" (Matt. 6:11). Most importantly, we ought to seek spiritual gifts. This is precisely the aim of the Psalmist when he declares: "Put, O Lord, a guard at my mouth." Do you recognize his insight? He begins his request with the cardinal of all virtues, which, when overlooked, leads to myriad problems; yet when earnestly pursued, it leads to goodness. Indeed, much harm comes through our speech, just as refraining from it can yield great benefit. A house, city, or fortification is pointless without sentinels who know when to lock and unlock them; likewise, the tongue and mouth hold no value if the mind does not manage them with discernment and caution, knowing precisely what to express and what to withhold. "Not so many," says the Wise One, "have fallen by the edge of the sword, as have fallen by the tongue" (Sir 28:21); and the Lord affirms: "Not that which enters the mouth defiles a man, but that which comes out of the mouth defiles a man" (Matt. 15:11). Moreover, another proverb goes: "For your words you shall make a weight and a measure, and your mouth shall be a door and a lock" (Sir 28:29). The Psalmist, aware of the difficulty of this endeavor, seeks divine assistance. The Wise One echoes this sentiment: "Who shall give me the seal of discretion upon my lips?" (Cyr. 22:31). We must do our part, hence the directive: "You shall make for your mouth a door and a lock;" yet we should continually request God's aid to ensure our diligence is manifested in action. We should keep our mouths restrained and our minds guarded like a lock—not that they should remain closed perpetually, but opened at the appropriate time. Sometimes silence is more beneficial than speech, and at other times, words are more powerful than silence, as the Wise One observed: "A time to be silent and a time to speak" (Ecclesiastes 3:7). If the mouth were always to be open, a door would serve no purpose; and if it were perpetually shut, what need would there be for storage? The door's purpose is for organizing actions at the right moment. In another sense, it is said: "For your words you shall make a weight and a measure" (Sir. 28:29), emphasizing that not only should we utter words as required, but we must do so thoughtfully and carefully. If we meticulously measure our speech like precious gold, how much more should we apply this approach to our words to ensure balance and propriety? This is why the Wise One counsels: "Do not withhold a word when it can assist" (Sir. 4:27). Do you see the significance of timing in our speech? Furthermore, he advises that if you possess knowledge, respond to your neighbor; but if lacking, let your hand be upon your mouth (Sir. 5:14). Also: "He who speaks much will find disillusionment" (Sir. 20:8). "Better is a man who conceals his folly than a man who blots out his wisdom" (Sir. 20:31). "You have heard the word, let it die with you; fear not, it shall not dissolve you" (Sir. 19:10). Additionally, "The one who speaks foolishly suffers the same agony as a woman in childbirth" (Sir. 19:11). The Wise One elaborates on the measure of speech: "Speak, young man, if necessary, seldom more than two words; when asked, communicate the essence succinctly. Know how to speak and when to remain silent" (Sir. 32:9, 10). Exercising wisdom demands that the tongue be utilized cautiously. Therefore, it is stated: "There is rebuke, but not at the right moment, and one remains silent—and is prudent; while another is silent—and is deemed wise" (Sir. 19:28; Sir. 20:5). It is vital not only to refrain from excessive speech and to speak sincerely but also to communicate with grace; this is why Paul advises: "Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, that you may know how to answer each person" (Col. 4:6). Recognize that this is the organ through which we commune with God, rendering Him praise; it is also how we receive the Holy Sacrifice. Believers grasp the truth of this. Consequently, it must be purified from all condemnation, slander, and vile talk. If an evil thought arises, we should suppress it internally, not allowing it to manifest as speech. Should timidity provoke you to complain, root out this weakness, maintaining a steadfast gate. Furthermore, sinful inclinations should not be allowed to take root; those that arise must be stifled and eradicated. Job exemplified such control over his tongue; he never uttered a word of filth, maintaining silence most often, and when responding to his wife, his words were marked by wisdom. One should speak only when words carry more weight than silence. For this reason, Christ warned: "For every idle word people speak, they will give account on the day of judgment" (Matthew 12:36). Paul adds: "Let no corrupt word proceed from your mouth" (Eph. 4:29). To safely guard this door and ensure it is securely managed, we must also heed the scripture that instructs: "Let all your discourse align with the law of the Most High" (Sir. 9:20). If you learn to refrain from superfluous speech and constantly guard both your thoughts and your lips with insights from the Holy Scriptures, your vigilance will be stronger than adamant. There are various forms of destruction via the mouth: speaking irreverently, mocking, engaging in empty chatter, or displaying arrogance—like the Pharisee who, unable to restrain his speech, carelessly divulged all within him, akin to a house lacking a door, leading him to sudden poverty. Another example is one who perished due to vanity, arrogantly declaring: "I will exalt my throne above the stars of God" (Isaiah 14:13). The Israelites often found joy in their neighbor's misfortunes, encountering claims such as: "Every one who does evil is deemed good in the sight of the Lord"; they sometimes chastised themselves for their complaints, believing that "those who commit iniquity fare better, even daring to tempt God." Today, we still hear praises for the proud (Malachi 2:17; Malachi 3:15). Others fell victim to their complaints, as Paul cautions: "Do not murmur, as some of them murmured, and were destroyed by the destroyer" (1 Cor. 10:10). When did they murmur? They lamented, "Are there no graves in Egypt that you have brought us to die in the wilderness?" (Ex. 14:11). Many were guilty of mockery: they feasted and then "rose up to play" (Ex. 32:6). Others spoke ill of one another: "He who is angry with his brother without cause is in danger of judgment; but whoever says to his brother, 'Raca,' is in danger of the court" (Matthew 5:22). Various others met destruction for their inopportune words. Should you wish to see how some have also suffered from inappropriate silence, consider this: "If you do not warn the wicked, I will require his blood at your hands" (Ezekiel 3:18). Some erred by indiscriminately sharing words entrusted to them: "Do not give what is holy to the dogs, or cast your pearls before swine" (Matthew 7:6). There are those who suffer for their laughter: "Woe to you who laugh now, for you shall mourn and weep" (Luke 6:25). Do you see how mouths can both destroy and bring salvation? Observe the Pharisee who was led to ruin through his words; in contrast, look to the tax collector who found deliverance through his humble cries. Witness the foreigner punished for his arrogance, while the righteous man, in humility, declared: "I am dust and ashes" (Genesis 18:27). Consider the one who delights in the suffering of others and pays the price, while the compassionate one receives salvation—it is noted: "Put a mark on the foreheads of those who mourn and sigh" (Ezekiel 9:4). Thus, Paul advises: "Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep" (Rom. 12:15); should you find yourself unable to do anything else, your sympathy alone will provide comfort to the sorrowful. Behold the one who laughs, only to find tears await him, contrasting with the one who mourns and receives comfort. "Blessed are those who mourn," says the Lord, "for they shall be comforted" (Matt. 5:4). Reflect on those who murmur and face judgment; in contrast, observe the thankful—those who find salvation. "Blessed are You, O Lord God," declares the prophet, "praised and glorified be Your name forever. You are righteous in all that You have done for us," and he continues, "You have executed true judgments in all that You have brought upon us" (Dan. 3:26, 27, 28). Some proclaim that "every one who does evil is good in the sight of the Lord," while the faithful assert: "Your pure eyes cannot look upon wickedness" (Hab. 1:13). Those who please strangers find that "those who commit iniquity fare better," but the faithful delight in pleasing God: "Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord" (Psalms 143:15), and again, "Do not envy the wicked, nor desire to be with those who commit iniquity" (Psalms 36:1). Have you observed how the saints encourage one another to remain steadfast amidst trials? Hear Jacob confidently declare: "He will give me bread to eat and clothes to wear" (Gen. 28:20). Note Abraham, who stated: "I will not take even a thread or a sandal strap from you" (Gen. 14:23). Even when his wife's purity was in jeopardy and famine threatened him, he uttered no indecent words. When his son asked: "My father, look, the fire and the wood, but where is the lamb?" he responded with meekness and foresight: "God will provide Himself a lamb" (Gen. 22:7, 8). Neither human nature nor sympathy swayed him from his conviction based on his son’s words—words that could have inflamed his paternal love. If anyone assumes he did not grieve, he remained separate from all and upheld a noble demeanor. Have you seen those punished for their laughter? Observe those saved through weeping and fasting, reflecting upon the Ninevites. Have you noted the consequences for those who speak ill? Contrast them with those granted blessings: "He who blesses you is blessed, and he who curses you is cursed" (Num. 24:9). "Bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven" (Matt. 5:44, 45). Do you perceive the need to neither keep your mouth entirely shut nor perpetually open, but rather to discern the timing for both? The prophet echoes this by saying: "Set, O Lord, a guard for my mouth, and a door for the enclosure of my lips." What is this door if not a mental barrier that holds flames, ready to scorch those who recklessly speak? Establish it as a guardian of conscience, ensuring it opens only when appropriate, delivering tremendous benefits. A wise saying asserts, "Remember your end, and you will not sin indefinitely" (Sir. 7:39). Do you see this thought reflected in the counsel? I have made it more solemn by indicating that it addresses both mortality and eternity. If well heeded, no evil will take root in the soul. Compare this with the admonition that "for every idle word, you shall give account on the day of judgment" (Matt. 12:36). Consider that death originated from the tongue: had Eve not spoken with the serpent, had she not embraced his rhetoric, she would not have suffered loss, nor would she have shared the fruit with her husband, leading to his fall. I do not intend to vilify the tongue and mouth, but rather to denounce their imprudent usage, resulting from a negligent mind. There exists another path to destruction via careless, immoral, deceitful, or flattering speech. A prime example is the kiss of Judas—laden with treachery. In contrast, Paul's greeting commands us to embrace one another with holy affection (2 Cor. 13:12).