Ambrose of Milan
My friends and adversaries have risen against me with hostility. They gathered and took their stand, while my genuine companions stood at a distance. Those who seek to harm my spirit employ force, and those wishing me ill speak empty words, plotting their schemes throughout the day. Yet I remain like one who cannot hear, akin to a mute who does not open his mouth; I have become like a man who hears not and bears no reproach within (Psalm 37:12-15). I am eager to seek those who can skillfully interpret these verses. It appears that notably in the first line, the Lord reveals that in times of trial, even a man's closest kin can become his foes (Matt. 10:36). King David candidly expresses this truth, revealing his sorrow and anguish.
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This is a genuine lament that reflects the deep pains of the heart as he outlines the agonizing impact of treachery from those who should have provided support. The prophet voices profound grief that he is assailed by friends and kin, rather than being embraced by their encouragement. David's sorrow mirrors the lamentations of Job, who chastised his so-called comforters, deriding them as ‘miserable comforters’; their presence did not soothe but rather deepened his despair. We must heed this caution! True consolation should be gentle and healing, easing distress rather than intensifying it. Just as gently applied remedies are required for tender wounds to alleviate pain, we should be careful to ease sorrow with our words rather than inflict further hurt. When Job's friends came to him, they remained silent for seven days, only speaking up after he cried out in anguish. Words must be carefully chosen to ensure our attempts at comfort do not cause additional pain. Silence can bring healing; hasty words, however, often wound further. Why should we be surprised if someone frequently hurt is further harmed by another's words? Is it not a transgression to speak too freely? (Proverbs 10:19; 29:20). A skilled physician recognizes the right moment to treat those weakened by illness, understanding that early intervention can yield positive outcomes. How much more critical is it for us to focus on the suitability and calming nature of our speech, striving to lessen sorrow instead of exacerbating it! Pain can create profound suffering; the heart of a bereaved woman mourning the loss of a husband or child may be too encumbered with grief to hear your words of comfort. There is no rush! Often, we witness disputes arising from such ill-timed consolations. We come to mourn with her, not to argue. Thus, we should select our words with care, ensuring we do not offend God in our effort to bring comfort. Avoid saying, ‘Hear this,’ followed by trivial words, lest you receive the reply, ‘Listen, you miserable comforters’ (Job 16:2). Refrain from adding unnecessary chatter to another's sorrow! Arrive at the appropriate moment, and refrain if your words lack kindness. The experience of such individuals can be taught through the words of Job: heavy trials encircle me, watching. My brothers are estranged from me; strangers draw closer. My friends have shown no mercy (Job 19:12-13). The same sentiments are echoed by the holy prophet David, who laments that his friends attack him while his loved ones have abandoned him.