Augustine of Hippo
Struck by the voice of justice as by an arrow, they questioned themselves, found themselves guilty, and went away one by one.
This was certainly the voice of justice. By this justice they were struck as by a dart. Looking within themselves and seeing themselves guilty, they all began to go away one by one.
But when we say this to them, they not only refuse to soften their severity, but become angry at the truth and answer: "But we are men!
"Will the dignity of our sex endure such injustice, that if we allow ourselves something with other women besides our wives, we must pay penalties equally with women?"
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As though they should not restrain unlawful desires manfully precisely because they are men. As though they should not present their wives an example of virtue precisely because they are men.
As though they should not yield less to desire precisely because they are men. As though they should not indulge bodily dissoluteness less precisely because they are men.
And yet they are indignant if they hear that adulterous husbands paid penalties like women. They ought to be punished more severely, insofar as it is more fitting for them to conquer sin by virtue and guide women to the right path by their example.
Of course, I am speaking with Christians, who hear with faith the words, "The head of the woman is the man" (1 Cor 11:3).
Since husbands acknowledge themselves as leaders, wives must follow them. Therefore they must all the more beware in life of any road along which there is danger that the wife will follow, imitating her husband.
But there are those who dislike one and the same form of chastity being kept by husband and wife. For this reason above all, they choose subjection to the laws of the world rather than to Christ.
The law of the public courts plainly does not bind husbands with the same bonds of chastity as women.
Let such men read what the emperor Antoninus, though not a Christian, decreed concerning this matter. A husband cannot accuse his wife of adultery if by his conduct he has not given her an example of chastity.
He also decreed that both should be punished if it is discovered that both have sinned equally against chastity.