John Chrysostom
"I am hard pressed between the two, having the desire." Notice the tender love of this blessed man. He comforts them also by letting them see that he himself has power of choice, and that this depends not on human malice, but on God's ordering.
Why then, he says, do you grieve over death? It would have been far better to have died long ago. "To depart," he says, "and to be with Christ, for this is far better; but to remain in the flesh is more necessary for you" (Phil 1:24).
By this the Apostle prepares the Philippians to bear his approaching death courageously. By this he teaches them true philosophy. He says well, "to depart and to be with Christ," because death is an indifferent thing. Death is not evil, but to suffer torment after death is evil.
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Likewise death is not good, but to be with Christ after death is good. What follows death is either good or evil. Therefore we must not simply grieve over those who die, nor simply rejoice over those who live.
How then? We must weep over sinners, not only when they die, but also while they live. We must rejoice over the righteous, not only while they live, but also when they have departed.
The former are dead even during life. The latter live even after death. The former are pitiable to all even in this life, since they offend God. The latter, even when they have moved there, are blessed, since they have departed to Christ.
Sinners, wherever they are, are far from the King and therefore worthy of tears. The righteous, whether here or there, are with the King. There they are much closer to Him, not by contemplation or by faith, but, as it is said, "face to face."
Therefore let us not simply lament the dead, but those who have died in sins. They are worthy of lamentation, wailing, and tears. Tell me, what hope is there in departing in sins to that place where one can no longer put off sins?
While they were here, one could very much hope that they would change and become better. But when they have gone to Hades, there they cannot receive benefit from repentance. "In the distress of Hades," it is said, "who will call upon You?" (Ps 6:5).
How then are they not worthy of tears? Let us weep for those who die in this way. I do not forbid it. Let us weep, but without violating propriety. Let us not tear out our hair, bare our arms, lacerate our face, or wear black garments. Let us only quietly shed bitter tears in the soul.
One can weep bitterly without this ritual, and not merely play at grief. What some do differs in no way from playacting. These public lacerations arise not from compassion, but for display, from ambition and vainglory. Many women do this as a trade.
Weep bitterly and groan long where no one sees. This will be the work of compassion, and it will bring benefit to you. Whoever weeps so for another will strive all the more not to suffer the same. After this, sin will become fearful to you.
Weep for unbelievers. Weep for those who do not differ at all from them, who die without Baptism and Chrismation. Truly such people are worthy of tears and lamentation. They are outside the royal chamber with the accused and condemned. "Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the Kingdom of God" (Jn 3:5).
Weep for those who died in wealth and did not contrive from their wealth anything for the comfort of their souls. They had the ability to cleanse their sins, but they did not wish to do so.
Let us weep for them, both each separately and all together, but with propriety, without losing dignity, and so as not to make a spectacle of ourselves. Let us weep for them not one or two days, but throughout our whole life.
These tears are the fruit not of irrational passion, but of tender love. Those others come from mad passion, and therefore they quickly dry up. Only what comes from the fear of God is lasting.
Therefore let us lament them and help them as we are able. Let us devise for them some aid, small though it may be, yet able to help. How and in what way? By praying ourselves, by persuading others to pray for them, and by constantly giving to the poor on their behalf.
This brings some relief. Indeed, listen to what God says: "I will defend this city for My own sake and for the sake of David My servant" (4 Kgs 20:6). If the mere memory of a righteous man was so powerful, how will the works done for the departed not be powerful?
The Apostles did not establish in vain that the departed should be commemorated during the celebration of the dread Mysteries. They knew that from this much advantage and much benefit comes to them.
When the whole people and the sacred assembly stand with uplifted hands, and when the dread Sacrifice lies before us, how shall we not entreat God when we ask for them? But we say this concerning those who have departed in the faith.
The catechumens are not counted worthy of this consolation, but are deprived of every such help, except one. What is it? One may give to the poor on their behalf. This gives them some refreshment, because it is pleasing to God that we help one another.
Otherwise, why would He have commanded us to pray for the peace and well-being of the world? Why for all people? Although among all there are robbers, grave-robbers, thieves, and people full of countless vices, yet we pray for all. Perhaps this may contribute somewhat to their conversion.
Therefore, as we pray for the living, who do not differ at all from the dead, so one may also pray for the departed. Job offered sacrifices for his children and cleansed them from sins. "Perhaps," he said, "they have sinned in their hearts" (Job 1:5).
This is how one cares for children. He did not say, as many people now say: I shall leave them property. He did not say: I shall hand over glory to them. He did not say: I shall acquire authority. He did not say: I shall buy fields.
What did he say? "Perhaps they have sinned in their hearts." What benefit is there, indeed, from all that remains here? None. I shall propitiate the King of all for them, he says, and then they will lack nothing.
"The Lord is my Shepherd," the prophet says, "I shall not want" (Ps 22:1). Behold great wealth, behold treasure. If we have the fear of God, we lack nothing. If we do not have it, then even if we possess the kingdom itself, we are poorer than all.
There is no one equal to him who fears the Lord. "The fear of the Lord," it is said, "surpasses all things" (Sir 25:14). Let us acquire it and do everything for its sake. Even if it is necessary to lay down the soul and give the body over to death, let us not spare ourselves.
Let us do everything to acquire this fear. In this way we shall be richer than all and shall receive the good things to come in Christ Jesus our Lord, with Whom to the Father and the Holy Spirit be glory, dominion, and honor, now and ever, and unto the ages of ages. Amen.
There was nothing more blessed than Paul's soul, because there was nothing more courageous than it. But now the opposite may fittingly be said of all: there is nothing more miserable, nothing weaker. For this reason we all fear death.
Some of us, among whom I include myself, fear it because of the multitude of our sins. Others fear it because of attachment to life and the difficulty of dying. May God never allow me to be among such people, for those who fear death are "natural" men.
Thus what we all fear, Paul desired and longed for. "To depart," he says, "is far better."